Final post about any opinions and then I’m done.
I’ve been thinking about the whole “No one has to educate you” thing.
I used to be on the side of “No one has to educate you!” I got angry at allistic people being ignorant, at hearing people being ignorant, at everything. And I would respond angrily.
For the longest time, I worked under the ideal that people don’t respond to anything but anger. That niceness was ass-kissing. And from experience, that seems to be true.
However, as I’ve lately noticed, those people on whom anger worked to silence them were the aggressive ones. The ones who were actually being nasty and derogative and insulting and inflammatory. The people who were seriously ableist and audist, etc. and intending to be. Getting angry showed them that I was offended by their serious acts. The people who anger didn’t work on were the ones who weren’t aggressive. Who made minor infractions and wanted to know. Screaming at them did nothing. TALKING to them makes all the difference. Educating them. That’s not to say screaming isn’t ever deserved (and you most certainly can be angry WHILE you’re educating them, even using harsh language).
It’s really about attitude of the poster. Post shitty meme about “What language do deaf people think in? looool” without any critical thinking? Actually audist and deserves no education. Genuine question about it that isn’t tagged “philosophical”, “deep”, “lol”, etc. deserves an education, even a deep discussion about human cognition, even if it’s phrased shitty and thinks that being deaf and internal monologue is contradictory.
In some cases, intent IS magical. If someone is trying and they REALLY don’t understand what’s going on, maybe telling them WHY works best more than ANYTHING. For example, yelling at someone that Autism Speaks is bad isn’t going to do anything. Telling them WHY it’s bad works wonders. Honest to god, the best people on earth for this are Rose and Draggle. It’s beautiful to see how often they calmly explain to people what they did wrong and why and suddenly, that person doesn’t make that mistake again! It was even scarier (in a good way), when they always got it right after I verbally chewed them out. It’s a powerful difference and one of the reasons I deleted deaf-autie. If someone wants to learn and googling ain’t doing them good, then why on earth CAN’T we act as educators?
So, in short, shouting isn’t always warranted. Shouting CAN BE warranted down the road, but why must we scream? Why can’t we proceed calmly and if the person abuses us, show that WE can fight back? What’s the point in beating people down immediately and hoping that beating conveys a lesson? Are we not better than our oppressors?
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- guardianoftime said:I agree with everything you said!
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- not-kris-guins-personal-blog said:I share your sentiments too.
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